Happy Valentine’s Day!! Let’s all learn how to love ourselves enough to be disciplined. Motivation is great when it shows up, but you cannot depend on it for positive change.
At some point, we all bought into this lie that you’ve got to feel ready or motivated in order to change. That at some point, you are going to have the courage and the confidence to change. I hate to break it to you but that’s garbage advice. You may be reading this right now knowing you have all these incredible ideas but what you think is missing is motivation. That’s not true.
Why? Because the way that our minds are wired and the fact about human beings is that we are not programmed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult. We naturally look for the path of least resistance. Our default mode is to avoid discomfort.
In order to change, in order to create a healthy lifestyle, in order to build a business, in order to be the best parent, in order to be the best spouse–to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life–you are going to have to do things that are difficult, uncertain, or scary.
Which sets up this problem for all of us: YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO FEEL LIKE IT. If motivation is garbage, how can you change?
You do it anyway. You learn to be disciplined instead. Even when you don’t feel ready, or you’re scared, or people are telling you can’t. You push yourself to do the small things every single day. To keep the promises you made to yourself. You are one decision away from a completely different life. You just have to stop waiting to feel motivated and do it anyway.
– Coach Shanna